Tuesday, January 4, 2011
getting use to posting
Sorry for the bad formatting. I gotta figure it out but I need some sleep. bear with me for now.
I'm fresh, lean and saucy
One avenue I started using for dating was OKCupid, aka okc. It's an online dating site. I know crazy, right? So unlike me, right? Well, the answer is pretty simple as to how I started the profile, (actually two profiles, Shhh...) But I'll tell you how I got into it another time. For now, I'll share this.
There's this guy on the site who I have a mad crush on, but he sucks at messaging and lives in the east bay. We've messaged each other back and forth a bit, but I think he's not as interested due to our distances. I don't know what his deal is but he says he'll message me back I it's been a month. I still have a mad crush on him... even though I haven't met him. but crushes are innocent and fun, and well, it sucks, but I let that ship sail. Only, one day I log on and on my homepage they post recent activity on the site. And I see he posted a note, which is a blog on okc... And, of course, I peeped it.Below, the first part is his note/blog to the italic part of one of his messages to a chick he conversed with on okc, and my comment to his blog starts after my green profile picture:
he writes:
Lessons in futility #237
Dec. 30, 2010Don't start off an email that mentions or suggests the notion that you "taste good". You will not get a reply.
If you really must mention CSI (in any of its iterations), always choose Grissom over Horatio, but acknowledge the value of each (because, dude, they're both cool). If you get no reply for mentioning CSI, the person probably does not know how to enjoy anything tongue-in-cheek, so you're probably better off.
Lastly, never end your message with a compliment. Compliments sound cheesy. Women hate that.
Learn from my mistakes, intrepid Cupids!
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If you really must mention CSI (in any of its iterations), always choose Grissom over Horatio, but acknowledge the value of each (because, dude, they're both cool). If you get no reply for mentioning CSI, the person probably does not know how to enjoy anything tongue-in-cheek, so you're probably better off.
Lastly, never end your message with a compliment. Compliments sound cheesy. Women hate that.
Learn from my mistakes, intrepid Cupids!
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You are totally OK with eating intelligent alien life, if you were starving on another planet. Does that mean--assuming that I taste pretty darn good (why wouldn't i?)--if you were starving on THIS planet, you'd eat ME? ;p
Nice to see another who can appreciate the CSI. It's a cheesy show, but therein lies the fun! I love Grissom the most. But you have to love Horatio's terrible lines, right? So good.
You seem like a very healthy, rounded and warm person. Lovely profile!
"taste good"? That can be awkward and hilarious at the same time. Maybe it was too soon to mention that? Save it for a third date, perhaps? About the ending, if you reread the compliment within the context of "taste good," it sounds like you're sizing her up for a meal "very healthy, rounded and warm." You know, like, "grade A, cubed and sizzling..." Maybe you both can avoid the awkwardness and hold off til March (refer to number 13 of Swifts classic satire, A Modest Proposal. http://ethnicity.rutgers.edu/~---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
As I am reading his post, I am laughing because I thinks it's funny! And I don't know if this chick is square or if he did something else that caused her to ignore him; ah, whatever. I decided that it was funny and that I wanted to wish him well even if he wasn't digging me even if his last message said he's write me when he has a chance to write a real message... which was a month ago! I get the point, my distance is not convenient. For me it is for the right person, but that's just me.
Do you think if I send him a personal message that says, "I'll be riding with some friends in your neck of the woods and my birthday is in a few days, you should join us for beer. btw, I'm fresh, lean and saucy," it might respark his interest? ;-P
On another note, I need decent pictures to post on my profile. I like to wear heels add a dress and walk my dog, seriously, I do. Somehow I became a girly girl and well, I think that would be a great profile pic. But it is cold... which makes it a good thing that I have knee high boots, a dress, and long wool coat. I'll be needing help from friends with pics, please. Can I be picky? I have no idea about angles or best side.
And if you have any ideal and or fun suitors, send them my way!
Oh, I had my first real date in years! I'll tell you how that's going later.
Now can't reveal the mystery of tomorrow
I totally forgot I had this blog. It's been three years and here I am. I decided to start a blog to share my adventures in dating, hence the title, Why I'm Still Single.
Here is some background before I get into stories thus far:
Since my last post, I broke up with what was the love of my life for 5 yrs,but I like to say six because we got to know each other for a year before we started dating. We loved each other but grew apart and well, C'est la vie, right...? We are still fond of another, and think highly of each other which is gerat.;and it's great we also both moved on.
In almost a lightning speed after that relationship I met someone else and we dated for two and a half years. Usually, I would think to not date so soon after, because I am usually a voice of reason and that's just crazy, right? But the opportunity was there and this guy was sweet, took care of me, we got along great, and had lots of fun and adventures. Honestly, even in retrospect, I can't complain for taking a blind leap into that. Love isn't always fueled by reason and that's the beauty and insanity of it all. Sometimes we have to take leaps of faith.
...only, he broke my heart in early April... the day after his b-day. :-/ We broke up because he doesn't know what he wants in life right now. so yeah... I won't get into how he calls, texts and emails almost all the time now, saying he misses me and how he appreciates things I did in retrospect... then inserts naive not well thought out awkward comment afterwards. I really don't need to know some things about how he's moving on but misses and appreciates me :-/ I don't hate him cause he's not a jerk, just naive. He's a sweetheart, just a naive one... um, yeah. anywho, moving on... we're still friends but I am making sure to put some increasing gaps between our friendship to keep things healthy and diplomatic. I'll leave it at that.
It's January now, and I've been single for 9 months. It's time I started putting myself out there. I mean, I like to take care of myself and look good, but it's not like I can flirt with myself... so yeah, I'd like to start dating and y'all are wondering what's the hooopla, right?
I will be 32 on the 18th of this month. I hope to find someone who is my partner in crime and marriage minded, but isn't in a rush for something that we hope will last. I just want to have fun and explore life with them in the mean time. Yah know?
During this dating process, I'd like to date different people and see how it goes. This is bold thing for me to do. I've always dated friend so here I am pretty much on nearly blind dates. I pretty much get along with everyone but it takes time to really get to know me. Time is very valuable to me and i don't just hang out with anyone. I am absolutely comfortable being in solitude having adventures exploring the world on my own, and now with my stud muffin, Graham, my dog.
Hopefully I find someone patient and curious enough to fancy me in this process as well. One of my challenges is that I am too nice and I don't want to break any hearts unnecessarily. I'm not the type to string people along. At the same time it is necessary to take that chance when taking the leap of faith, and that's OK, because, like Stevie wonder said, "now can't reveal the mystery of tomorrow." I don't mind if my heart is broken because I know how to take care of myself, but I want to make sure I choose wisely, while making sure to keep an open heart.
So that's that.
Here is some background before I get into stories thus far:
Since my last post, I broke up with what was the love of my life for 5 yrs,but I like to say six because we got to know each other for a year before we started dating. We loved each other but grew apart and well, C'est la vie, right...? We are still fond of another, and think highly of each other which is gerat.;and it's great we also both moved on.
In almost a lightning speed after that relationship I met someone else and we dated for two and a half years. Usually, I would think to not date so soon after, because I am usually a voice of reason and that's just crazy, right? But the opportunity was there and this guy was sweet, took care of me, we got along great, and had lots of fun and adventures. Honestly, even in retrospect, I can't complain for taking a blind leap into that. Love isn't always fueled by reason and that's the beauty and insanity of it all. Sometimes we have to take leaps of faith.
...only, he broke my heart in early April... the day after his b-day. :-/ We broke up because he doesn't know what he wants in life right now. so yeah... I won't get into how he calls, texts and emails almost all the time now, saying he misses me and how he appreciates things I did in retrospect... then inserts naive not well thought out awkward comment afterwards. I really don't need to know some things about how he's moving on but misses and appreciates me :-/ I don't hate him cause he's not a jerk, just naive. He's a sweetheart, just a naive one... um, yeah. anywho, moving on... we're still friends but I am making sure to put some increasing gaps between our friendship to keep things healthy and diplomatic. I'll leave it at that.
It's January now, and I've been single for 9 months. It's time I started putting myself out there. I mean, I like to take care of myself and look good, but it's not like I can flirt with myself... so yeah, I'd like to start dating and y'all are wondering what's the hooopla, right?
I will be 32 on the 18th of this month. I hope to find someone who is my partner in crime and marriage minded, but isn't in a rush for something that we hope will last. I just want to have fun and explore life with them in the mean time. Yah know?
During this dating process, I'd like to date different people and see how it goes. This is bold thing for me to do. I've always dated friend so here I am pretty much on nearly blind dates. I pretty much get along with everyone but it takes time to really get to know me. Time is very valuable to me and i don't just hang out with anyone. I am absolutely comfortable being in solitude having adventures exploring the world on my own, and now with my stud muffin, Graham, my dog.
Hopefully I find someone patient and curious enough to fancy me in this process as well. One of my challenges is that I am too nice and I don't want to break any hearts unnecessarily. I'm not the type to string people along. At the same time it is necessary to take that chance when taking the leap of faith, and that's OK, because, like Stevie wonder said, "now can't reveal the mystery of tomorrow." I don't mind if my heart is broken because I know how to take care of myself, but I want to make sure I choose wisely, while making sure to keep an open heart.
So that's that.
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